BA – Dreams
Dream Challenge
Ambition is a strong desire to achieve something challenging coupled with
action. The more tangible you make your desired result and believe in you
and your partner’s ability to achieve it, the greater your ambition.
Why this Challenge?
To explore what a meaningful and fulfilled life means to each of you individually and to your relationship mutually.
How To
Spend 15-30 minutes every day for seven days discussing, imagining, and contemplating where you want to be in 3 months, 6 months, 2 years, 5 years, and 10 years. Discuss each timeframe on a different day. For example, where do you want to be in 3 months, should be day one of the challenge.
On day six, identify what about your life’s design is preventing you from getting there. Keep in mind that your life is perfectly designed to produce the results that you’re getting. If you want different results, you need to design your life differently.
On day seven, identify what you will do to move you in that direction. Keep it positive and don’t reject any ideas until you have fully discussed them. Then put plans in place to implement these new life
designs.
"What you get by accomplishing your goals is not nearly as important as what you become."
About Ambition
Every individual and relationship should aspire to something. It’s important that
you have both individual and shared ambitions. The most difficult part of creating
individual and shared ambitions, is finding the right balance between
expectations that are so high that you never reach them and creating ambitions
so low that you do not reach your potential.
Do you intentionally aspire to to achieve or become something? If so, can you
readily articulate what it is you aspire to? What does your relationship aspire to
be? How are you investing in your individual and shared ambitions?
Your honest goals reflect what’s important to you, so if it’s important then you
should set goals that are focused on it. The value of these aspirations and dreams
is not only to demonstrate what is important to you, but to also encourage self awareness and provide a way to measure progress. When you have specific aspirations and dreams, they enable you to frame and evaluate your life and relationship in meaningful ways. If ambition is so important to your relationship, why do so many lack any specific aspirations? In our experience, this comes down to one or more of the following:
– Comfort Zone: Setting specific goals pushes you outside of your comfort zone
and the discomfort of what you know is sometimes less scary than the discomfort
of what you don’t know (even if you believe it will result in something good)
– Fear: Sometimes you are afraid of setting an expectation and never reaching or
in other words, you’re afraid of failure. Other times, and more often than you
might realize, you’re afraid that you might actually achieve it. Why would that be
scary? Because, if you achieve your greatest aspiration, then what will you have to
aspire to? Well, guess what?! There is no aspiration so big that you can’t create a
bigger one tomorrow, so go after that BIG goal!
